Who is my Kid?
- Is he/she a personal belonging?
- Is he/she private property?
- Does he/she have to be similar or resembling parents?
- Is he/she a personal product (THING)?
- Are they created without personal human characteristic?
- Are they to be shaped upon parents’ WILL?
- Are they just dummies or human beings?
- Are they puppets in the hands of parents?
- Are they a rack where parents to hang on their hatred and desperate?
- Are they there to be humiliated?
- Are they there to study only?
- Are they there to obey and follow without knowing why?
- Are they to be punished because they look like auntie or uncle?
- Are they to pay for bringing them without financially prepared?
- Are they to pay for losing our jobs or any economical instability?
- Are they to pay for a new project start, or business load?
- Are they to pay for parents’ psychological instability & disturbance?
- Are they to pay for parents’ divorce?
- Are they to pay for a fight between one of the parents and the boss?
- Are they to pay for the increase of prices?
Kids are …
- They are just an extension and not a belonging
- They are an expand not a personal property
- They are different not similar nor resembling
- They are of a different human print and extremely distinguished
- They are unique to God’s creation
- They are not tools nor things, they are flesh and blood
- They are having different human elements, of different characteristics
- They are not puppets nor dummies, they are born matured
- They are not a product but they are a result
- They were empty and they are filled
- They are out coming of your in put
- They are just a cut and paste of your human behavioral styles
- They are a mirror of your attitude and behavior
- They are a video camera, recording all your actions
- They are a recorded message, repeating your message
- They are of mixed genus and chromosomes upon parents’ factory
- They have a WILL to CHOOSE but not a WILL to BE
- You are behind their psychological disturbance and instability
- They are a future plant, to your implanted behavioral and ethical seed
- They are a bless from God
- Without them, you will never be MUM nor DAD
- They are to be saved not humiliated
- They are a pearl of a heart
How to bring Kids up?
- Be a role model, they will imitate and copy
- Never criticize them in public
- Fish them doing something right
- Praise before you criticize
- Show love and forgiveness
- Bring up yourself, before bringing them up
- Make up your attitude and behavior before bringing them up
- They are not the reason behind your divorce, it is YOU
- They are not giving a bad mouthing to your boss about you
- They are not filling your Employee Assessment Form
- They are not a hidden factor behind price increase
- They are not the ones who decided to be your KID
- He is not the one who had chosen you as his/her parent
- Do not compare him/her with anybody, even himself
- Do not demonstrate authority, neither of money nor position
- Do not blame him/her for a mistake, it is already done, better solve
- Share with him opinions, do not be a dictator
- Do not punish him, for failure, but share all his success stories
- Give your self time to discover him/her; sure they are potential
- Demonstrate him flexibility, as for him to act with flexibility
- Do not criticize to prove right or wrong, but provide solutions
- Criticize him by pausing questions, to give him/her time to elaborate
- Honor your word with him/her; promise the minimum and achieve the maximum
- Do not tell a lie, be sure he will be always honest and frank
- Do not use profanities, certainly, he/she will be polite
- Let him/her feel love and appreciation, consequently, they will be happy and creative
- Listen carefully to him/her, they will show interest to all your comments
- Respect their needs and wants, they will work with your advice
- Let them participate all family plans, they will be your future strategic planners
- Plan them fantastic outings, they will adore your companionship
- If you value him/her; they will never devalue you; chain reaction
- Believe that you are his/her Gate to Life
- You are his/her only source of knowledge and information; so do not be false, and try to be a true one
- If he/she is discouraging, so you are his discouraging source
- Be a remarkable page in his Life History
- Leave a positive human print in his/her life
- Recognize his abilities and capabilities, and work on enhancing them
- Do not focus on his disabilities as it is a swift moral killer
- Build human bridge and keep rapport with him/her; they are useful in your adulthood
- Your kid, is your contingency future plan, of what you were not able to achieve; but not your doublers/duplicates
- Capsulate and brief up your life experience, he/she is a continuity, they do not have to repeat the same passage, cause of lack of information
- Let him/her live not only survive, by adding life to year, not only years to life
- Role them a model of a tactful life fighter, for them to have endless hopes, not hopeless ends
- Be for them an ideal figure of how to do right things, not things right
- Show them, how to be them SELVES not for them to show their ELVES
Show them that Life is Coffee, not just a Cup of Coffee
Ghada Salah Gomaa
Business Etiquette & Protocol Consultant
