“It’s true that an independent woman does not exactly need a man in her life, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want one”
There are three sides to every story; my side, your side and the truth.
I use that saying often and I am a strong believer in it. This belief urges me to step out of myself (figuratively speaking) and try hard to have an objective outlook on things. Today’s three sides are about a story, or actually a phenomenon that so many people are talking about and that many women are suffering from.
It’s about men slacking off.
Before I delve further into the topic, it is important to let you know that I will not be making clear distinctions between the three points of view. This is left entirely up to you and to how you personally perceive this phenomenon.
So here goes nothing.
Women of this day and age are fiercely independent. We make our own money and pay our own bills. We make life changing decisions easily and handle the consequences well. I don’t need to bore you with the list of activities that make us need men less and less in our lives, I’m sure you know them all first-hand. In a nutshell, women have learnt to do almost everything men can, sometimes even better.
In light of this fierce independence, men have come to expect women not to need them and end up slacking off when they should be lending a hand. Out of a feeling of uselessness perhaps, or trust in the woman’s abilities as some men claim, the endline is that men have become accustomed to letting women do everything.
Yes, it’s true that an independent woman does not exactly need a man in her life, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want one. With naivety out of the equation, and the absence of need, too, a man who slacks off simply gives his woman reason to cut him off.
Just because a woman insists on paying for her coffee on a first date, it doesn’t give a man the right to burden her with home-running expenses down the road. Just because she knows how to handle the cable guy, it doesn’t mean he can take a nap while she supervises him.
It’s flattering for a woman to know that her man trusts her with the heavy-duty jobs, but it is equally disappointing when it happens for no good reason.
Men and women are equal, but at the same time, they are different. We were created differently, and are thus destined for different duties. Yes, we have proven that we are capable of doing what men can do, but that doesn’t mean we like it. It also doesn’t mean that it is no longer a man’s duty.
Men who are readily giving up their duties because women can handle them are simply giving women less and less reason to start relationships or marry or even trust their own brothers and fathers will support them when needed.
Ability is one thing, willingness is another.
Just like men are not willing to babysit or do household chores, even though they can; women are not willing to handle heavy duty tasks, even though they can.
Mr. Man, stop slacking off!
Be a man!