Fatherhood: Between “help” and duty

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Who doesn’t need help when it comes to taking care of the kids and managing things at home? Whether you are a full time working mom or stay-at-home mom, it gets crazy almost every day to keep things in place. Unfortunately many women are so reluctant to ask their husbands for help, because they don’t want a favor or their husbands don’t show interest or any signs of willingness to do so. Who said it is a favor? It’s so unfair to consider asking for assistance or a helping hand from your husband as a favor. In fact when a husband takes care of his own child for a fraction of the day it’s not called a favor, it’s him practicing his fatherhood.

 

I believe that women are to blame for this; we are the number one reason why fathers are unwilling to help at home. Most of the married women I know think that asking for help will degrade them or make them look like they are not up to the responsibility, but this is so wrong. It’s known that women are multitaskers, but still we need some help. Even moms who are full time housewives can go nuts looking after the house for 12 to 15 hours per day. We just need a break and let go of the kids for even an hour to get other things done at home. There is no mom who wouldn’t appreciate any kind of help.

In fact when a husband takes care of his own child for a fraction of the day it’s not called a favor, it’s him practicing his fatherhood.”

I urge you today, if you are reading this to try to encourage your husband to be involved you, not in a way to burden him but in a way to release some pressure off your shoulder. He can work on simple tasks like putting the kids to bed or preparing lunch bags for school. My husband has a very demanding job and usually comes home very late, but he enjoys the kids so much that he almost puts them to bed on a daily basis.

My husband has a very demanding job and usually comes home very late, but he enjoys the kids so much that he almost puts them to bed on a daily basis.”

When fathers offer some help, they seem to have more energy and more patience towards the kids, since this is not primarily their duty or core responsibility. I don’t have a magical solution to those fathers who refuse to help, but I believe they would be more willingly to do so when we stop putting this quest for help under the umbrella of a “favor”, it is a father’s duty to offer a lending hand to his wife whenever possible.

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