We tend to choose New Age media to shape our lives over healthy nutrition and a good weekend with a nice novel. From verified twitter users to talking heads on TV we became opinion frenzy. Not to forget that most of us unconsciously believe that if it’s written in a book, it’s of course valid info.
While discussing books with lots of young people, I discovered that ‘Self Help’ is what everyone is eating. From women and men and their different planets to books about being positive and The Secret of a life you don’t know about blablabla. People became desperate and depressed. We are always in need of something to help us out through a tough divorce, a mirage of a dream career and depression for no absolute reason. The only solution that we can see with a naked eye is a Self Help book and we grab it and make self-help writers’ international bestselling millionaires. The secret that we always tend to avoid is that those writers are real people who had their ups and downs, happiness and sorrows, challenges and success…Just like you!
They came from different backgrounds and have life experiences that built up their characters and these experiences shouldn’t necessarily apply to your own life. What may have worked with them doesn’t necessarily work with you. What they can apply in their country shouldn’t necessarily apply to yours. What they have tried with their spouses doesn’t have to apply to yours.Seriously, why Advice has become so popular these days?! Why are we even listening?
Older people like parents think that their advice counts and what they tell you is the final solution to your misery. But just because parents are older and have lived more years than you did, doesn’t mean that they have been through more. We can learn faster with technology and globalization. We can respect their advice but develop it to match our modern fast paced life. Trial and error is nothing to be ashamed of.
Another thing that triggers the “advice” mode: Celebrities gone philosophers! When some writers and filmmakers out there get famous and have thousands of followers on social media, they feel the responsibility to comment and talk about each and every topic of public interest or else they will disappoint their frenzy followers.
It becomes a homework that they have to do every night. Thus, they immediately talk about a certain situation without proper research or expected facts without considering the fatal responsibility of the 140 characters they share. Media and public opinion become their own permanent face tattoo that lives with them their whole lives, fearing the scars of removing it.
We should truly believe that celebrities and public speakers are also human beings who happen to have their insecurities, own strict beliefs and incomplete characters… Just like you.
Your life is your very own perfect flawless script.